Relationships-Lost and Found

I love trees. This isn’t my tree, but I feel I can claim it since it grows near our house. Its roots may stretch right under my feet. I must have taken at least twenty pictures of this tree from the time it had just begun to turn colors up to yesterday. I call it the tree of hearts, because that’s exactly what it looks like to me. The loss of leaves seemed so sudden, but looking back at the older pictures, it had been happening the whole time.

Seeing this tree suddenly so barren of its red and yellow hearts reminded me of relationships. So many people struggle daily with broken hearts. Maybe someone’s heart is broken, maybe someone broke a heart. It’s hard to look beyond heartbreak. It’s hard to remember the brightly colored days, when you feel so bleak and barren. It’s hard to hurt, and it’s hard to hurt another in order to be true to yourself.

We will all go through it at some point. Some of us more than others. We will cry, and feel angry, but in the end, we need to remember the good feelings. We need to acknowledge that there were wonderful days, with happy memories that shaped us into who we currently are. The mistake so many people make, is holding onto the bad memories, and forgetting the good ones. Or they write the good ones off as a fallacy, for one reason or another, and make their hearts believe that fallacy.

What we choose to hold onto, will make us who we are. If this tree held onto those leaves until they were brown, and never let go, it would appear dead. The blooming life underneath would be suffocated with the leaves the tree refuses to let go of.

We more than likely will experience both ends of the heartbreak spectrum, but just like this tree, we will bloom again, and we will make more bright, colorful memories. Never feel guilty for moving joyously into the next phase of your life. You aren’t replacing your past happiness, for nothing can ever replicate or replace that. As I said before, these happy moments of the past, helped shape who you are, and you are growing with each new experience and phase of your life. So go forth in happiness, and love. You have the power to make it bright, if only you allow it. Don’t fear the “what ifs,” or you will never have the memories.

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40 something woman in the midst of a midlife crisis, living daily life with a smile on my face, love in my heart, and completely dripping sarcasm like melting cheese from a cheese-burger.

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